Worth the Wait

While playing a game of Q & A with a friend I was asked : How can you just not have sex?  I took the time to really process this question. I wanted to provide an answer without coming off as this super Holy Saint. (Because a lot of time people think that if you profess to be a Christian you are super Holy and are never tempted sexually).  It's not like I woke up one day and I just was never physically attracted to men anymore. I'm still very much attracted to men (love me some dark chocolate). 

1. I believe it was a combination of self-awareness gained through my time in 1:1 Counseling ( I am an advocate for individual psychotherapy), seeking counsel from women of God, and personal revelation through my relationship with Christ.  I finally understood what sex was and what it wasn't. I gained an understanding of God's intention for sex. 

2. Though not a virgin I truly believe 2 Corinthians 5:17 is clear, “If any man be in Christ, He is new creature, all old things have passed away, behold all things have become new. So after believing that God intended for sex to be done only in the institution of marriage...I chose to pursue sexual purity. Which translates into no sex (any form) until marriage. 

3. I have also chosen to guard myself from other temptations that can lead to sex: refraining from listening to certain types of R&B, being mindful of the things that I watch, and even being intentional with the people that I hang around with on a regular basis.

4. I'm human. Sex still crosses my mind... mostly in dreams (my subconscious still works). I'm still attracted to men. I still live on earth so I am exposed to the media. I also live on an island where people walk around scantly dressed all the time.  It is difficult to process at times and is not always easy to just block out. However, I have learned that prayer really works in this situation.  I am also very fortunate to have a group of friends and mentors who are supportive and give me great advice. Talking to them and to God really helps me to get through the tough patches.  

Again this is my own personal conviction. I believe sex is a good thing. I believe God created sex to be performed between husband and wife.  The personal ministry of Dr. Lindsay Marsh Warren and all of the amazing people who serve under this ministry continue to encourage and inspire me to pursue sexual purity.  

 

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